Posts Tagged "success"

Podcast: Blogging Success (Ep. 17)

Posted by Erin Blaskie on Jan 20, 2011 in Internet Marketing, Marketing, Podcast | 0 comments

You’re Only Successful Because

Posted by Erin Blaskie on Mar 2, 2010 in Business Tips | 15 comments

I have the utmost respect for entrepreneurs.  Regardless of their situations, they all share a common personality trait – the desire to succeed.  Nobody enters into the business world looking to or wanting to fail.  Nobody goes into it saying, “Well, if it does work out, that’d be cool.”  No, most of us hit the business world with the desire to create something bigger than we can imagine and we go into it thinking, “This WILL work!”  It’s our drive and our tenacity that allow us to stand amongst the entrepreneurial crowd with pride.

Until you meet those people who tell you, “You’re only successful because…”

I have come across a few women, over the course of the past six years, that have attributed my success to one key fact – I haven’t had any offspring yet.  Put aside the idea that I may very well be a driven, focused, motivated individual who wants to create a business that is sustainable, successful and a lot of fun to be in AND I’d probably have this drive regardless of whether or not I’ve also given birth to children…  Nope, it all boils down to how underused my ovaries are.

Now, I know that the men reading my blog may not be having my particular issue (mostly the underused ovaries part…) and I think it might be pretty specific to the female generation. Women can have difficulty sometimes with comparing themselves to another women in a similar situation.  So, when a woman is feeling like she isn’t as successful as the other woman she’s speaking with, she makes excuses as to why she isn’t there yet.  Generally speaking, the excuses are pointed directly at the other woman.

“You’re only successful because your husband has a great job and you can afford to take it slow.”

“You’re only successful because you’ve got a great support system.”

“You’re only successful because you got lucky and met the right contacts early on.”

When I hear any entrepreneur use these lines to compare themselves to another entrepreneur, I like to gently remind them that it doesn’t matter how the stars align and how perfect a scenario is, when it comes to running a business and being an entrepreneur you’ve either got it or you don’t.  The willingness, the drive, the motivation, the focus, the desire… you either have those traits or you don’t.

We don’t know a person’s history unless we’ve walked in their shoes and we’ve gone through what they’ve gone through.  We will never know and it’s time for us to put down the, “You’re only successful because…” and change it to, “I admire your ability to…”  Changing your attitude toward other people’s successes will allow you to experience your own success more fully.  You will be able to fully stand in your achievements and say, “I did this.  I created this.  I have the ability to succeed.” without attributing it to any other outside factor.

What do you think?  Have you ever been told that you’re only successful because…?  If so, what did you reply or how did you feel?

A Simple Guide for 2010

Posted by Erin Blaskie on Jan 6, 2010 in blog | 0 comments

My good friend and owner of The Cakery (a creative cake company here in the Ottawa Valley area) Crystal McLeod sent me this and it’s really the perfect guide for 2010.

You can also follow The Cakery on Twitter here.

Enjoy!

Health

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Play more games
6. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
7. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
8. Sleep for 7 hours.
9. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality

1. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive, present moment.
3. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously.. No one else does.
5. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip..
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more.
14. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree…

Society

1. Call your family often.
2. Each day give something good to others.
3. Forgive everyone for everything..
4. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
5. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
6. What other people think of you is none of your business.
7. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life

1. Do the right thing!
2. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
3. However good or bad a situation is, it will change…
4. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
5. The best is yet to come…
6. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
7. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

I Would Be More Successful If Responses (Part One)

Posted by Erin Blaskie on Jul 23, 2009 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I asked a question on the blog yesterday which is bringing in amazing responses…

Here are a few of them so that you can see that you are not alone in your doubts, fears, etc. It’s what you do with it that counts.

I think success means different things to different people, but I’ll assume that you mean ‘professionally’… I would be more successful if I was a little less cynical, I wasn’t so argumentative, I was more positive, I could just learn to be happy with things the way they are!

If my computer would work as fast as my mind! Slow loading PC moments interupt my creativity/production. I’m a website designer so any technology issues mess up my “groove.”

if I was willing to risk failing more often

I didn’t hear my mother’s voice in my head, reminding me of all the times I’ve failed before and “Why do you think this time will be any different?”

I was better able to manage my time. I have so many ideas, a long list of ebooks to write, blogs to start, things to learn (podcasting, WordPress theme tweaking), and I am easily overwhelmed. I have products from big-name gurus and I love them, but they still don’t start with Point A.

I stop trying to implement things perfectly, and just did something.

I would be more successful if I was more focused and motivated when it counted most.

If you’d like to answer the question (it’s completely anonymous), you can do so below.

I Would Be More Successful If…

Posted by Erin Blaskie on Jul 22, 2009 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Have you ever thought that aloud?  What about quietly… Somewhere far in the nether regions of your brain?

The question haunts me sometimes, to be honest, and it got me thinking about what sort of personal, professional or other barriers get in our way.

So, I’m going to ask.

Fill out the form below if you want to answer the statement.  It’s anonymous and won’t post your name, email address, etc. anywhere.  In fact, we don’t even ask for it.  It’ll come to me and then I’m going to compile them on my blog.  I think that we’d find that a lot of our hold back statements are the same as others.

Share with me…